The past week has been such an emotionally difficult week to deal with. I never believed that in 2020, we would still be fighting not only for racial equality, but for us not to be killed for simply being black. I am still coming to terms with that and still trying to gather up the strength I need to do my part in trying to make changes in this society. There’s always this narrative of ‘strong black woman’ and it is one that has to come to an end. Black women deserve to simply be women. We deserve moments of weakness when life is overwhelming, moments of fear when we are afraid, moments to cry when the weight of the world is on our shoulders and moments to just be women. To not have to get up everyday and fight. I am tired, I am scared and I am so broken that I will to have raise black children in this world that does not value black lives.
I am sure we all know what happened with George Floyd, may his soul rest his peace and may his family find comfort in knowing that his name and his death created a revolution. Black people have been getting murdered for a decades by policemen, people in power and by the systemic racism itself. I want people to understand that this revolution didn’t happen because one man died; it’s something that has been a huge issue in the black community. #BlackLivesMatter didn’t begin in 2020, it started in 2013 when founders (Alicia Garza, Patrice Cullors,Opal Tometi) created an international movement that campaigned against violence and systemic racism towards black people.
What I truly want to point out in this post is that, this shouldn’t be fight for black people alone. When we said #BlackLivesMatter, in no way was that ever an indication that all lives didn’t matter. How can all lives matter if black lives do not matter ? If, innocent people are getting killed senselessly at every opportunity – how then is that not an issue that everyone should be fighting ? I saw the most perfect analogy on Instagram the other day where someone pointed out that ‘if I told you my house was on fire and needed your help, would you say ‘what about my house?’ And that is exactly what it is. Black peoples lives are in danger at the moment and this is something everyone should recognize and support. I know that there is a lot of learning and unlearning that needs to happen within our ally groups, but I also feel like when you reach a certain age, you should be responsible for teaching yourself things that you need to grow as an individual. There is so much that black people are facing currently to have to sit down and explain the effects of systemic racism, microaggressions and most of all – your silence. If as a non-black person you have chosen to be silent during this movement, you have sent a message across that says that you don’t care about people dying, about black people dying. Silence never benefits the victims or the oppressed,silence only benefits the oppressed.
I don’t want this to end with us simply sharing a hashtag and going on about our day. Changes are currently happening all around the world and I want to be a part of that change, for a better future of young black children and black children that haven’t even been born yet. I want them to grow up in a world where they aren’t afraid of being black because it could end up with them being denied opportunities, treated unfairly, wrongfully arrested and worst of all, dead.
I think it’s time for us all and especially ally’s to make efforts to do better and be better. Be more educated, more compassionate and more empathetic to the issue at hand. There is so much that you can do to make changes.
2. Podcasts to listen to
3. Organizations to donate to if you are able to
4. TV shows & Movies to watch
5.Here are some petitions you can sign and pass forward so that we can start making noise that matters and breaking down systems that have broke black people down for centuries.
Here is a website for additional things you can do in other countries that have been active in BlackLivesMatter movement such as Australia, Canada, France etc https://t.co/jIUiDdqaHy
There is something all of us can do to make little changes. Educate yourself, correct others when you are sitting at tables and you hear racist conversations.
I hope this post makes it easier for everyone to see that it’s not just about a hashtag. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section below, let’s continue the discussion and make steps towards change together.
Until next time,